Ah, the classic “Will an Autistic Child Ever Be Normal?” question.
Because, you know, there’s a universal definition of “normal” that everyone should adhere to, right?
It’s not like neurodiversity exists or anything. If someone doesn’t fit into your narrow, cookie-cutter idea of normalcy, does it mean they’re somehow less valuable or worthy of acceptance?
Clearly, normalcy is the ultimate goal in life, and anyone deviating from that must be promptly fixed, right? In the spirit of empathy, let’s refrain from reducing complex individuals to a narrow definition of normal.
Autism is a Spectrum
It is not a deviation from the norm.
So, before asking such questions, maybe take a moment to educate yourself and spare the parents the joy of responding to such thought-provoking inquiries.
No, I’m not about overreacting!
It’s about promoting understanding and empathy. Before throwing around questions like “Will an Autistic Child Ever Be Normal?” people really should take a moment to educate themselves about autism. It’s not rocket science; it’s just basic human decency.
Because, let’s face it, ignorance is not bliss when it comes to sensitive topics like autism. Understanding goes a long way, and it’s a lot more productive than perpetuating stereotypes.
Many autistic individuals lead fulfilling lives and contribute to society in meaningful ways.
But everyone is not the same and we need to understand that.
It’s essential to provide love, understanding, and tailored support to help the child develop their skills and navigate the world in a way that suits their individual needs.
There are numerous examples of individuals with autism who have excelled in various fields, showcasing the diverse talents and potential within the autistic community.
Remember, the goal is not to change an autistic child but to empower them to thrive in their way. With the right support and understanding, they can lead fulfilling lives and make valuable contributions to the world around them.
My nephew, Neil ( Nonverbal Autism)
My nephew, Neil, attends ‘Pradip Centre for Autism Management,’ a special school designed to support individuals with autism.
While he may not fit into certain expectations of “normal,” when you observe him closely, you’ll see he shares many similarities with other children.
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His Everyday Joys
He really enjoys the simple things in life – like eating tasty meals all by himself, going on trips, and watching ASMR videos on YouTube. And yes, he watches reels too! He loves to laugh a lot and sometimes gets super excited, even if it means having a little tantrum.
He finds joy in riding rickshaws, playing the tabla, going to school, and playing with his toys. And oh boy, he can’t resist the temptation of that last piece of chocolate cake or a yummy laddu!
Every little thing he does shows off his special and happy personality. Whether it’s giggling in a rickshaw or tapping away on the tabla, or just enjoying a sweet treat, he makes the most out of each moment. Life is all about having fun and being happy for him!
What truly sets Neil apart is his deep connection with his mom and his understanding of her language.
These bonds are truly precious and make him incredibly special. In many ways, he embodies the essence of any other child, bringing happiness, curiosity, and a set of distinct interests into our lives.
Sure, Neil might not engage in socializing or talking like some other kids do, but in the hearts of his parents, his sister, and those who hold him dear, he is absolutely normal.
His individuality is his strength, and the love and understanding that surround him create a space where he can authentically be himself. Each giggle, every moment spent playing the tabla, and the love he shares enrich our lives in truly extraordinary ways.
Celebrating Neil for who he has become a beautiful acknowledgement of the exceptional person he brings into our world.
I am not disconnected from reality
I don’t want to come across as naive or disconnected from reality by claiming that an autistic child is just like everyone else.
I acknowledge the unique challenges individuals with autism like Neil and his family face on a daily basis. What bothers me is the pressure to label such individuals as “normal.”
I believe it’s crucial to embrace and understand their individuality without imposing conventional standards.
It’s Never The Family
The odd thing is, it’s never the family – the parents, siblings, or close ones – who question this idea of being “normal.”
It’s always the others, like neighbours, well-meaning folks, and acquaintances, who express disbelief and ask things like, “Has he seen a doctor? What did the doctor say? Why don’t you do something?”
It’s kind of strange how people outside the family sometimes struggle to understand and feel the need to comment.
Not Avoiding Reality
We don’t avoid the question of whether Neil, will ever be “normal.” Honestly, he won’t be like other 15-year-olds, but that doesn’t mean he’ll have a sad life.
Our family is committed to making sure Neil has a happy and fulfilling life, just the way he is.
How Neil Spends His Time
We’re making sure Neil, has a happy, independent life….and a normal life.
Firstly, he goes to school where he has friends, loves his teachers, and interacts with them. He loves going to school because it’s a car ride.
Neil is not just an observer in life; he’s an active participant. He’s won sports awards, takes tabla lessons and even attends online classes when he can’t be at school.
Neil doesn’t miss out on the joy of festivals, celebrates his birthday, and eagerly goes on vacations. One of his favourite things is visiting his nani’s house. Above all, he’s aware of who loves him, and there’s a mischievous twinkle in his eye when he realizes his behaviour might be a bit quirky.
It’s not just about what he does; it’s about living a life filled with love, experiences, and the understanding that being himself is more than enough.
We hope to give him a life that feels normal and brings him joy.
Determined to provide Neil with the best opportunities, my sister ensures he never misses school. His therapy lessons are not to be missed.
Through these therapies, Neil has been making significant progress, with each session contributing to his overall development.
Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA):
ABA is a structured therapy that focuses on improving specific behaviors by breaking them down into smaller, manageable steps. It is widely used to teach various skills and reduce challenging behaviors.
Speech-Language Therapy:
This therapy helps in developing communication skills. Speech therapists work on improving language comprehension, verbal expression, and social communication.
Occupational Therapy:
Occupational therapy addresses the development of fine motor skills, sensory integration, and daily living activities. It helps children enhance their ability to participate in various tasks independently.
Social Skills Training:
Social skills training aims to improve a child’s ability to interact with others. It focuses on developing skills such as taking turns, making eye contact, and understanding social cues to enhance social interactions.
Sensory Integration Therapy:
Sensory integration therapy helps children with sensory processing issues. It involves activities that stimulate or calm the senses to improve the child’s ability to process and respond to sensory information more effectively.
The uncertainty of the future is something we all grapple with, and Neil, being a child with autism, might indeed face unique challenges.
Being kind and understanding, and supporting individuals like Neil can really make a difference. This helps create a positive and friendly place for him to do well and feel included.
So…
Will An Autistic Child Ever Be Normal?
Well, certainly, if everyone else decides to drop the alien-like stares. Because apparently, that’s the secret formula – just stop treating someone with autism like they’re an extraterrestrial being, and boom, normalcy achieved!
And while we’re at it, can we please retire the absurd habit of questioning mothers, fathers, and siblings about treatment plans?
As if the well-being of an autistic child is a public spectacle. It’s almost comical how some folks act like the concerned guardians, while the actual parents and siblings, you know, the ones deeply invested in the child’s welfare, are somehow considered oblivious.
Maybe, just maybe, it’s time for a reality check on where genuine concern and understanding should be directed.
